past due parental meet up post

I never did get around to telling you about how it went when T met the parents.  I mean, I think I mentioned it briefly…

The first meeting was at my niece’s birthday party in June, as planned.  It was pretty chill; the parents were friendly.  There was no weirdness or angst.  I did find out after that my mom was upset that she was the last to know (my siblings knew first), but I told her there were pics of us on facebook, so if she ever logged in…  Anyway.  It was weird to have her upset that I hadn’t told her.  Encouraging almost.

Since then, there have been many opportunities to interact.  We went to a little shopping nook with my parents and sister and had lunch.  We did a day trip for my birthday.  There was another niece’s birthday.  My parents moved last month, so we’ve helped a few (3 or 4) times with that.  We’ve been out for my sister’s birthday.  They’ve been so friendly and open.  I’m sure they’d still rather I was not gay, but I’m so pleased they are being nice.  Mom even gives T hugs.

Honestly, I could have never expected this.  Granted, the level of excitement my mom feels for my brother’s girlfriend definitely eclipses how she feels about my own; however, that is to be expected.  (Although, I would like to point out that my brother’s girlfriend has not helped with the move even once. I’ve got that beat.  But I think T and I both feel like we need to go above and beyond to win the parents over.  Plus, I owe it to my folks. They’ve helped me out so much over the years.)

It’s good.  It’s weird and unexpected, but it’s good.  Maybe in time, they will see it as a good thing, as well.

July already?!

Somehow it has been over a month since I last posted.  To be fair, June was a really busy month for me (and generally is): my dad’s birthday, Father’s Day, my niece’s birthday, my birthday, Pride…

I’m 35 now.  That’s a weird feeling.  Halfway through my 30’s.  I don’t mind aging–I still consider myself young.  But I’m also aware of reality.  I want to be able to buy a house before I’m 40, and that is looking like it will be a struggle.  I would also like to have the mortgage paid off before ‘retirement.’  (I don’t know that I’ll ever truly retire–I doubt I’d be able to afford it.)  But I’m not sure if I’ll be able to get these things done.  I’m still paying off my student loan (set to have it paid in full this December if all goes well), so I can’t even start saving for a down payment until then.  6.8% interest is no joke (thanks, government).

In more immediate news, yesterday my water heater started leaking.  It’s going pretty well, actually.  I woke up this early am to the sound of water splashing over the sides of the pot I put under the leak.  Anyway, my apartment manager refused to do anything about it yesterday and will not tell me if it will be taken care of today, so… I’m pissed, as you can imagine–he just wanted me to turn the water off and use a vacant apartment that he left unlocked and that at least one other person is currently using (no thank you).  Thank goodness I have a little carpet extractor (attached to my carpet stain cleaner).  I was able to get up most of the water from the carpet that had soaked in before I found the leak.  I’ve had a fan on it since yesterday, so now it’s mostly dry.  But what about most people who do not have these things or would not care to do them?  Damn apartment living.

T and I are still going strong.  We’ve both been a little grouchy lately, which is annoying, but which is also life.  It’ll be six months this month.

That’s all to report for now.  I hope you all are doing well. 🙂  Remind me to tell you next time how it went for T to meet the parents (spoiler: way the fuck better than I could have imagined).