I never did get around to telling you about how it went when T met the parents. I mean, I think I mentioned it briefly…
The first meeting was at my niece’s birthday party in June, as planned. It was pretty chill; the parents were friendly. There was no weirdness or angst. I did find out after that my mom was upset that she was the last to know (my siblings knew first), but I told her there were pics of us on facebook, so if she ever logged in… Anyway. It was weird to have her upset that I hadn’t told her. Encouraging almost.
Since then, there have been many opportunities to interact. We went to a little shopping nook with my parents and sister and had lunch. We did a day trip for my birthday. There was another niece’s birthday. My parents moved last month, so we’ve helped a few (3 or 4) times with that. We’ve been out for my sister’s birthday. They’ve been so friendly and open. I’m sure they’d still rather I was not gay, but I’m so pleased they are being nice. Mom even gives T hugs.
Honestly, I could have never expected this. Granted, the level of excitement my mom feels for my brother’s girlfriend definitely eclipses how she feels about my own; however, that is to be expected. (Although, I would like to point out that my brother’s girlfriend has not helped with the move even once. I’ve got that beat. But I think T and I both feel like we need to go above and beyond to win the parents over. Plus, I owe it to my folks. They’ve helped me out so much over the years.)
It’s good. It’s weird and unexpected, but it’s good. Maybe in time, they will see it as a good thing, as well.
Under the Cherry Tree 